Tuesday, May 20, 2008

pregnancy journal entry 6

This is day number 203 and you're 29 weeks pregnant!
You have 77 days or 11 weeks left, and are 72.5% of the way there.
Baby's age since conception is 189 days or 27 weeks.
Your baby is now about 16.7 inches from head to toe, and weighs about 2.7 pounds. He or she continues to be active and grow; however, you may be feeling fewer kicks and punches. This is because even though your baby is getting larger and stronger, he or she also has less space in which to gain momentum for these movements. Your baby's blood is now being produced from the stem cells in its bone marrow.

this baby has spent the past few weeks trying to shimmy herself into a head-down position. i thought for sure she was there about a week or 2 ago, but it looks like she still moves around quite a bit. a lot of the time i can tell that she is lying transverse, then i feel her head on my hip bone and get my hopes up, then she is sideways again. anyways, i am so proud of myself that i can tell how she is positioned and what she is up to this time. with sparrow i don't think i had any idea. but it's cool cause i can tell the difference between her hand and her feet movements, therefore getting a good idea of how to baby-map her. (it gives me hours of entertainment!) this is reassuring because i am pretty sure that she won't be breech--one of my biggest "birth fears," being as it guarantees you a c-section in this state. there are, however, some good things you can do to encourage the baby to turn if they haven't done so by week 32 or around there:
-knee-chest position: involves getting on your knees and then resting your shoulders/ head on the bed or ground. basically you are turning the baby "upside down" from what he or she normally experiences, and if you do this for 15 mins. several times a day for a week or so, the baby should turn.
-breech tilts: you can lie on your back with your hips up on pillows about 12 inches. then roll from side to side. keep relaxed.
-lying on a slope: use a board of some kind, prop it up on a couch, and lie on it with your head downward about 8-10 mins a day.

oh and check out this one:(this and above suggestions from http://www.beautiful-births.com/content/resources/breech.html)
-"Cat Stretch with Light & Music Stimulation:
First, get in a "cat-stretch" position: on all fours, head lower than rear end. You can use pillows to kneel on. Take a flashlight, turn it on, and put the light against your lower abdomen directly the skin - the lower, the better. At the same time, use a walkman or portable CD player's headset against the lowest part of your belly, with music turned on (but not blasting-loud). The fetus will hear the music and see the light, both encouraging him/her to turn toward it, i.e., your pelvis. Try for 30-45 minutes. You may need to do deep breathing - the baby will be MOVING!"

here is another opinion from spinningbabies.com:
"Use of maternal positions that put the mother up-side down can help a baby use gravity to flip. The breech tilt, inversion on the stairs, off the couch or use of an inversion table are all possible options. The Open-Knee chest extends the mother's chin and I've changed my mind about that position. I like inversion positions that allow the mother to tuck her own chin. Myofascial workers tell me this relaxes her pelvis whereas extending the chin tightens the pelvis. This matches what we know about open throated vowels sounds in labor (sounding or moaning in labor).

There is often enough amniotic fluid for an easy flip before 35 weeks. Gentle methods used in alternative maternity care will not force the baby."

one lady on a discussion forum said her midwife told her to eat lots of chocolate! if this is effective, then my baby has NO CHANCE of being breech. choc. is one of my staples right now. i need no further encouragement. oh, and apparently 5 or more servings of choc. per week reduces the risk of the preeclampsia, a pregnancy disorder having to do with low oxygenation of the placenta. it can be life threatening. so eat chocolate! i recommend trader joe's 72% dark choc. bar. mmmmmmm. ps- milk chocolate isn't chocolate. according to rod (my boss), "people who eat milk chocolate can't be trusted. ...bush probably eats milk chocolate.")

also, you can put an ice pack on the top of your uterus (up nearest your boobs) for 20 mins or so. babies will usu. turn their heads away from the cold.

hoo! segunda is really kicking right now, and i am definitely feeling strong kicks up toward the top. yessss!

for anyone interested in reading an in-depth article about baby mapping, follow this link:
a little difficult to read, as there are a few typos, and it is quite confusing once they get into naming all the various possible fetal positions, but in general it is really cool; i could spend an hour right now trying to baby map. fun. (by the way, if the link doesn't work, i think they are currently having server problems. but it should be corrected soon.)

at my last clinic appointment a week ago, i was seen by a super cool midwife named anna bunting. at the clinic you get seen by nurses instead of doctors. the doctor is supposed to review your charts and then come in and "save the day" when the baby is born. anyways, the nurses they have there are all midwives, for some reason, as in they also do home births as their own private practice besides working for the county. this midwife was my favorite so far. she was sooo mellow, and super super nice to sparrow, who was with me for the appointment. she said sparrow could sit up on the examining table with me, and when we heard the heartbeat, she really took her time and even asked us if we wanted to listen longer. she spent so much time talking to me and answering my questions about birth plans, rights in the hospital, etc. etc. and didn't obnoxiously ask me if i was taking the synthetic iron pill. in fact, i confided to her that i was only taking my prenatal with iron and also drinking the special iron herb tea every day, and she said i would be fine on those 2 things. she told me that the important thing in a birth plan for cottage hospital is to focus on the baby's aftercare, as they will want to take the baby right away and whisk her off to the nursery, etc. as a hospital patient, she told me, i have the right to refuse ANY procedure on myself. hah! this means i will be a lot stronger this time on not having a hep lock poked into me just for the hellofit. if they really do end up needing to give me an IV at any point, i am sure they will be able to find the vein. that hep lock during sparrow's labor was so annoying, and it took hours and hours afterward before i could get anyone to take it off. geez. also, this midwife's questions to me seemed really genuine and personal instead of feeling like she was trying to gather more information about me to report to the state. and she didn't pry me about my husband or my financial situation. she treated me as if i knew something about my baby and what was going on in my life, body, and pregnancy. it was great. can i schedule a home birth with you, please?

she also gave me a list of free doulas that are currently training here in SB and to my surprise, our friend Cybil was on that list! i had no idea she was going to try to do that! really cool. cybil dances with thomas and they have known each other for yeeeeeeeeaaaaars. however, i have a few friends in mind that i feel strongly about being there, so i am not sure if i will be able to give her the job. i also feel really strongly about having someone that aligns with our belief in the Lord and all that goes with that! so we will see. the doula decision is not finalized yet.

oh and i was so excited because i got to opt out of the obnoxious glucose test! during pregnancy they do a test on you to see if you have gestational diabetes. well they make you drink this 12-oz. horrible bright green sugary viscosity of a drink that i'm sure will GIVE you gestational diabetes if you don't already have it. you have to drink it in like 10 minutes or something and then they take your blood after an hour and check your insulin levels. i HATE it! why can't they let you at least consume something good, like a piece of cake, instead of neon frog syrup. so sick. who knows what's in there. anyways, i was kind of dreading having to take that again, and apparently now was the time; when the worker weighed me she mentioned it, and i took the op and cut in, "um--can i opt out of that?" she was a bit baffled. "but...well, have you ever had gestational diabetes?" "no, i passed the test with flying colors last time, and i also know how to prevent it." (trick: eat protein all the time.) so--she crossed it off my chart! woohoo! that was easy!! i hope i don't have some social worker knocking on my door in the future because of it.

holly and i have been talking a lot about attempting to start a childbirth education class. this sounds like it would be soooo fun! i would get to do all this birth and baby research and share the knowledge! tracy's class helped me SO much in giving me birthing confidence that i am super passionate about every pregnant woman i see being able to have the same gift.

as for baby names for little segunda, we still seem to be sort of stumped. my top fave is still golden and always has been (since high school--my friend jerusha gittlen has that for a middle name, and i have loved it ever since!) but i bet you this one will pop out with raven black hair, and then my 2 daughters will seem to have been misnamed. ah well. we'll keep you posted.

Friday, May 9, 2008

more sayings to amuse mother

"Daddy is boiling water right now." -march 9

"draw on da bible? never never never." -march 9

"i'm stuck in the living room!" -march 9 (between a couch and a chair)

"i'm too messy. i'm too messy." -march 9 (butter on her hands)

"twinkle twinkle, little half and half!" -march 26

"i'm a genius!" -march 31, after flipping into her bed

"twinkle twinkle little hope, how i wonder what you hope." -march 17

"i smelling the sky! (sniffing the window.) mama! smell the sky!" -march 17

"he's nakey, mama! ...but he wears clothes at night!" -march 26

"i better watch out." (in Ross, early april, when a shopping cart almost hit her)

"i don't have a tail, mama!" -apr. 1, looking at me earnestly while reading a book

me: "did you have a good day today?"
sparrow: "yeah. i had fun with daddy." -apr. 1

she gives me her dinosaur to be kissed goodnight, then says "thank you!" and then, "i helped dinosaur say thank you!" -apr. 1

"i put my butt in the wall!" -late march
(i had told her not to put her feet on the wall, so she put her butt on it instead.)

"mama! i closed the door and ran, mama!" -apr. 2

"you are my munchkin." -apr. 2 (i was sooooo amused when she said this to me.)

"daddy, i'm hopping like a kangaroo!" -apr. 6

near the beginning of april she was saying "sure" and "yup!" a lot. (do you want a strawberry, sparrow?" "um...sure." so funny! cause she always used "sure" when she for sure for sure really wanted it, but still made it sound all casual.) now she says "yes," crystal clear, when she is answering positively. yup, yeah, and sure are gone. she is two years old now, after all.

"where's my dad? how's my dad doing?" -apr. 3

(praying at dinner) "thank you for mommy and for daddy and deers and giraffes and baby fawns and forks..." -apr. 8

"i forked it!" -mid-april when she was eating egg with a fork

i had told her one morning that "the mice are sleeping" because she was being really loud. a few days later, she says,
"guess who's sleeping, mama?"
"the mice and alan." -apr. 8

"i'm gonna eat the fuzzy. it looks tasty mama." -apr. 8

"Yeah! that's cool!" (over and over in line at the store. she had heard the lady in front of us say that.) -apr. 14

"there's the peets! i see it!" -apr. 14 (yeah for my 2 year old being excited about peets!)

me: "do you want to sit and eat your breakfast?"
sparrow: "no, i wanna stretch and watch pilates." -apr. 16

sparrow: "i want my dad, mom."
me: "he's in san francisco. he'll be back."
sparrow: "in an hour." -apr. 16

sparrow: "look! a dog! a dog!"
me: "uh-huh."
sparrow: "it has spots, mom." -apr. 19 (i love how she said this, it was really important for her to inform me that the dog had spots.)

"someone's crying, mom." -apr. 20, hearing some kids in the park

apr. 20--she kept calling the alligator (in a book) "elevator." usually she can say alligator no prob!

"it's 8 o'clock." -when she woke up apr. 20 (it wasn't 8 o clock. it was about 7.)

(singing) "thank you god, thank you god, for this wonderfulday! for this wonderfulday!" -apr. 18th (she made that one up herself. we usu. sing "for this food" or "for this car.")

(same song) "thank you Jesus, thank you Jesus, for this Jesus!" -apr. 18th

(she also points up to the sky when she says "thank you God!" how does she know to do that? i don't do it!)

"sorry about your money, mom." -apr. 25, when my change rolled on the floor at the store

"where's your shopping list?" -apr. 25 (i hadn't even lost it, she was just saying that because i so often DO lose it!)

(when she got a cool new turtle in the mail she was soooo happy and started dancing ballet for it.) "turtle! i'm dancing like a ballerina!" -apr. 25

"i will never never break this." -early may, re: her high chair tray. she is always abusing it (hanging on it, etc.) and i am always telling her not to.

"grandma and opa were gonna come over tomorrow." -may 1, randomly

"i want a little bit of little tiny orange." -may 1

"this is a skirt. (picking it up out of the hamper.) it is dirty." she was trying to find her tutu with liz koppa. she looked around and said, "my tutu is not on the floor." -may 1

(trying to get her to nap)
me: "close your eyes, sparrow."
sparrow: "and settle down." -may 8

"i better get warm! we better get cozy!" -current, when she is cold outside

hahahaha, i have been trying to teach her not to grab things off the counter, and i keep having to tell her, "you have to ask first, like this: 'mom, can i play with that?'" instead of repeating the question, she would just answer it herself and nod, and then take the object. finally though she has gotten it, and can formulate a permission question! i was sooo amused at one of the first ones she did mid-april, she was trying to get me to pick her up, but whining "up, up, up." i said, "how do you ask?" and without hesitation she said, "mom, can i play with the up?" hoot! also, when i used to tell her to ask nicely, she would say "nicely" and think that was what i meant! now she knows she must formulate the question with a please and a nice voice. she is getting there.

conversations with herself: "...and what does a horsie say? goes, 'nay!' and what does a piggy say? goes 'oink!' and what does a baby say? goes 'wah!'" -current

me: "did you have a good day today?"
sparrow nods, then: "i missed you." -may 9, today. (melt!)

she is asking these types of questions nowadays: "and what are those over there?" pointing out windows, "and what's that noise?" hearing new sounds, "and what are those little guys?" usu. for characters in books, but she often uses "little guys" or "guys" for inanimate objects as well. it's so funny that she usually starts these questions with "and," as if we are looking at and discussing the picture-book of life together and we are merely turning a page.

another couple funny sentence structure things sparrow is doing right now: she says, "i wanna picked up!" when she wants up. also, when she knows she is not supposed to do something a certain way, she says "i don't...(do whatever it is)" "i don't fall down, mommy," instead of 'i won't fall down.' oh, and this one was FOREVER ago, when she first started talking, but i don't think i ever wrote it down: she would mix up the words chicken and kitchen. hence, when she woke up in the morning, she would say, "go to chicken, mama, go to chicken!" now she is a lot more advanced than that, obviously, though she still mixes up potato and tomato and a few other things. she will often say random things like "i wanna go downtown," or "i got a new address."

lately, and this is kind of crazy, i don't know where it comes from! she is telling me, "Jesus fell down, Jesus hit his face." i was a bit startled when she first said this a few days ago, but then i realized she might have been dreaming or had some sort of revelation, so i try to say, "yeah, i'm sure he did fall down cause he had to carry a big cross" or "yeah, he lived life as a person, and i know he fell down and hit his head." today at lunch she was whining for sugary cereal so much that i had to go stick her in her bed for a minute to get her attention. she screamed and screamed. when we got her back out she was meek and good and even happy for the rest of her non-cerealed lunch. i said, "thank you for being good and not whining. that makes mommy happy, and it makes daddy happy, and it makes jesus happy." her eyes lit up. "i wanna make jesus happy! and mommy happy and daddy happy and jesus happy. ...and jesus fell down and hit his head." she does seem to be stuck on something here, i can't quite figure it out!

sparrow's 2nd birthday

nevermind that this all happened a month ago!!! hahaha, but nonetheless, it was a special event that deserves some blogging attention.

sparrow's real birthday is april 18th, but we had the party on saturday the 12th because thomas had to leave for san francisco the next day. it was such a fun party!! we had it at stowe grove park at 3 pm with lots of yummy snacks and trader joe's nitrite-free hot dogs. a sampling: watermelon, bubbly lemonade, veggies with dip, and a huge bowl of strawberries. also, a whole wheat cake with absolutely no refined sugar in it. secret to sweetening it: applejuice concentrate and a carrot/raisin puree. this recipe didn't even call for ANY oil or butter. (i put in a little butter anyways. cause i'm german.) my rule for kids (or any) birthday cakes: i will NOT mess with writing, crazy pan shapes, or frosting designs/pictures for the decorating. WHY bother with the hassle of it when you can just plop a rubber ducky on top of your cake and make it look just as cute and pleasing? i did have a bit of trouble with this year's, though, because i had my heart set on a ballerina cake topper, since sparrow loves "dancing ballet" so much. (this involves her jumping around and pointing her toes while she watches ballet videos... usually swan lake. her arms and toes are getting pretty good! her toes are amazing actually. she has a fierce point and is already standing "en pointe," which i think is actually dangerous to the development of her little feet, but i can't get her to stop it! and she knows "plie," "passe," and a few other legitimate moves. also, she insists on wearing a tutu or at least a dress whenever she does this. which is every day at least once.) but back to the cake topper: can you believe that they don't sell proper ballerina cake toppers? ??? i mean ANYWHERE?!! not online, not anywhere in this town--craft stores, cake stores, party stores! they had a few sitting down ones on amazon.com, but hello! who wants a ballerina sitting down when it's all about jumping? (for sparrow anyways.) sitting down just does NOT embody the spirit of ballet. i finally went to glenda's party cove in high hopes, as they'd said on the phone that they had some, but found only atrociously blue-clad, sloppily painted, ugly cheap ballerina cake toppers. yikes. i'll do without, thank you. i bought a cute little bear with a tutu for $2.50 but ended up not even using the thing--it looked too kitsch on the cake i made. hence, the cake ended up sporting bright pink gerber daisies in 2 shades, and strawberries. it was lovely to behold. new rule for decorating cakes: use items that you already have at home or you know you can easily pick up at a store you regularly go to anyways. sheesh. for all the trouble i went to with that ballerina thing, i might as well have drawn one in frosting after all.

but enough about the cake. sparrow had a great time, all her little friends were there: the lomelinos, the reeves, and the mcginnes youngsters, as well as most of her grown-up friends, though we did dearly miss liz and mitchell, and the lovely may. sparrow had been talking about her birthday for weeks: "my birthday's coming up!" she would tell us every day. for some reason, she really grasped the concept of it from all the other birthday parties we had attended in the last few months. then on the week of, she was telling me, "it's on saturday, it's on saturday," which i'm sure she DIDN'T have a true concept of, but she had heard us say it enough. and now it was finally here! thomas and i made an investment and bought her a whole bunch of art supplies, including an easel. i am in love with this book called "young at art," by susan striker in which she explains the importance of toddlers being exposed to all different art mediums, and gives advice in how to direct positively (or rather stop taking control of) the artistic activity, and also gives solid practical advice on mediums, projects for different ages, and where to order supplies. i LOVE this stuff! you give her a creative outlet at a really early age, allow her to freely explore, and basically set up the best possible opportunity for her to become a great artist if she should choose to keep pursuing it in the future.

we let her open the easel in the morning, because it was just too big to lug all the way to the park and back. she had fun unwrapping it and setting it up with her dad. we also got her 2 pairs of scissors, some markers, crayons, paints, brushes, an apron, and paper. these things will be key to her pre-reading development, and she will also be using the items for years. this knowledge offset the cost-factor for me. besides, it was tax return month! the presents were a really fun thing in general. i love how at kids' birthday parties, all the other kids crowd around so closely and help unpack things. that made for some cute pictures.

thomas had set up balloons and it was just a gorgeous day--hot and sunny, and we got the perfect spot at the park--under the enormous spreading tree, close to the play structure. the one thing i learned from this party is: do cake before presents, and do cake early, like after the first hour, if not within the 1st hour. that way, the kids won't be waiting around so long during present-opening with nothing to do but to help open presents. haha. so many people had to leave before we finally got to cutting the cake, and i felt SO bad for the kids! the REASON you come to birthday parties is for cake! i mean, not really, you know, but as a kid... i am not exactly sure all the kids would have LOVED the cake, but hey. they should have gotten a chance to try it. i thought it was delicious. anyways, long parties should be reserved for grown-ups with a small number of close friends. kid parties should be short. now i know.

and now sparrow is TWO!!! whenever we ask her how old she is, she usually says "three," though. we told her she was turning 2 for so long, that she might have thought she WAS 2. anyways. on her real birthday the following friday, i took her to the beach grill at padaro in carpinteria, a lovely place by the beach, with a HUGE outdoor seating area and an enormous sand box with tons of cool sand toys. it is the BEST place to go out to eat with kids. i got to sit and read the paper for like an hour while she played. the only bummer was that when i went to get some more dipping sauce for my final delicious buffalo chicken tender, a seagull must have come in and made quick work of it. when we got back to the table, there were food bits strewn everywhere, gross! and my last tender was gone! hahahaha oh lament! my tasty two dollars! that is when you feel that the family at the neighboring table could have put forth a bit of effort and shooed the dang bird away for you instead of presumably watching with a mixture of amusement/pity as it devoured your food without discretion. monster! oh also, sparrow was getting a little sick (a cold) and it made her a bit more lethargic than usual, but nonetheless, she had a good time. and got to eat unhealthy mac and cheese. mmmmmm.
(here is a link to the whole month's album, which mostly concerns her birthday.)
april 08